I’m coming out

So I’ve been wibbling on whether or not I should come out to my family during my trip next week. Yes, it’s really coming up quickly! Tonight while Travis and I were out walking, we spoke at length about how I should handle things. I mentioned to him that I’d read an article recently about coming out as trans to one’s family which suggested that doing so by letter was perhaps the best and safest way to do so. So we came up with a plan for me to follow, and I’m comfortable with it, and happy to have an action plan. Here’s what it is.

I am going to go to Indiana, I will be all sweetness and light and grace and joy and then, when I get back home, I will send a letter to my family explaining WHY I was all sweetness and light and grace and joy. It’ll start something like this:

Dear (family member name here),

Remember when I was with you just a little while ago? Do you recall how happy and light I seemed to be? Did you think to wonder how or why that change might have occurred in me? Well, here’s how…”

And then that’s it. I’ll be out to my family. Mom, Dad, Joyce, John, my sister…the people I see and spend time with regularly when I’m back there will at last know me for who I am. :)

Of course I’m not going to go without a contingency plan. If need be, I’ll be able to rent a car and get the hell out of Dodge. There is the chance they’ll ask me what’s going on with me (unlikely, but it could happen) and they might kick me out of the house (again, unlikely but possible). So I’ll need to arrange a safe haven for myself if I should need one. There are friends in Indiana with whom I might be able to stay in the event of an emergency. I hope I won’t need to impose, but it’ll be reassuring to know I can get away if need be.

So there we are, my plan and what it is too. Any thoughts or suggestions? Leave a comment!