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Disgusting, nu?
Mar. 7th, 2010 11:09 pmAn email from my brother-in-law.
Dear [Boyname]
After reading your letter and Carol Lynn’s conversation with you on the phone we are both VERY disgusted! That being said we both felt is was important that a few things needed to be said. The lifestyle which you have chosen to pursue is sinful, immoral, and wrong, but you already know that. This is not natural and not something that needs to be celebrated. You need help and deliverance from from this horrible lifestyle that only God can give you. Carol Lynn and I have made some decisions that we want you to be aware of. First of all you and [Travis] are forbidden to have any contact whatsoever with our children. Any attempt on your part to have any communication with our kids will be dealt with in a very serious matter, up to and including legal action if necessary. Second, if you are present at any family gettogethers we will not be there. If we show up and you are there we will immediately leave. We will not subject our family to this immorality. If you come to town Carol Lynn may or may not come and see you. As long as you are living this sinful lifestyle you are no longer welcome in our home as well. As far as Carol Lynn and I telling Barbara and Willard, this is something that we had to do. You put not only us but the Metters in a very awkward position of knowing about this and you not having the courage to tell your parents. Carol Lynn was very concerned about how your parents would take this type of news in a letter. Because you were a coward, we had to take time our of our weekend to deal with this, very selfish on your part. Finally changing your hormones, dressing and acting like a woman does not change that fact that you were created a man and no surgery or pill will every change that. It might make you feel less guilty and ashamed of not living up to you responsibilities as a man, like providing for your wife and being the head of the house, but the fact remains you were created a man. I hope that at some time in the near future you realize what you are doing is wrong, when that happens give me a call, Carol Lynn and I will be there for you and do whatever we can to give you the help that you need, but NOT until then. As far as repaying us for the hotel try dropping a check in the mail, that would be the responsible thing to do.
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Now, as you might imagine this upset me greatly. I was in tears by the time I got to the part about their children. So I did what anyone would have done: I got drunk. For the first time in my 43 years on this planet I drank to become drunk. I didn't want to feel a damned thing. And what did I use to get drunk? Was it the bottle of Goose that I've been nursing for years to liven up my pasta sauce? No. The bottle of bourbon I just bought for use in tri-tip marinades? Uh-uh. No, it was cider. Three bottles in succession, one after the other. They were in the fridge just taking up space anyway.
I am not doing that EVER again. And by that I mean drinking. I never got sick (didn't drink enough for THAT) but I did feel very out of control. It was harder to think, harder to type, harder to simply stand UP straight. I think I still am a little tipsy. It was fun at first but after a while it was just tedious.
I honestly feel sorry for my brother-in-law. He's just a tiny, petty little man. I don't need him, his approval or his acceptance to be myself. I certainly don't need his sanctimonious, holier-than-thou attitude poisoning my life.
I hope his kids manage to grow up to be decent human beings despite being saddled with a misogynistic, racist, transphobic, homophobic bigot like him for a parent.
Dear [Boyname]
After reading your letter and Carol Lynn’s conversation with you on the phone we are both VERY disgusted! That being said we both felt is was important that a few things needed to be said. The lifestyle which you have chosen to pursue is sinful, immoral, and wrong, but you already know that. This is not natural and not something that needs to be celebrated. You need help and deliverance from from this horrible lifestyle that only God can give you. Carol Lynn and I have made some decisions that we want you to be aware of. First of all you and [Travis] are forbidden to have any contact whatsoever with our children. Any attempt on your part to have any communication with our kids will be dealt with in a very serious matter, up to and including legal action if necessary. Second, if you are present at any family gettogethers we will not be there. If we show up and you are there we will immediately leave. We will not subject our family to this immorality. If you come to town Carol Lynn may or may not come and see you. As long as you are living this sinful lifestyle you are no longer welcome in our home as well. As far as Carol Lynn and I telling Barbara and Willard, this is something that we had to do. You put not only us but the Metters in a very awkward position of knowing about this and you not having the courage to tell your parents. Carol Lynn was very concerned about how your parents would take this type of news in a letter. Because you were a coward, we had to take time our of our weekend to deal with this, very selfish on your part. Finally changing your hormones, dressing and acting like a woman does not change that fact that you were created a man and no surgery or pill will every change that. It might make you feel less guilty and ashamed of not living up to you responsibilities as a man, like providing for your wife and being the head of the house, but the fact remains you were created a man. I hope that at some time in the near future you realize what you are doing is wrong, when that happens give me a call, Carol Lynn and I will be there for you and do whatever we can to give you the help that you need, but NOT until then. As far as repaying us for the hotel try dropping a check in the mail, that would be the responsible thing to do.
--
Now, as you might imagine this upset me greatly. I was in tears by the time I got to the part about their children. So I did what anyone would have done: I got drunk. For the first time in my 43 years on this planet I drank to become drunk. I didn't want to feel a damned thing. And what did I use to get drunk? Was it the bottle of Goose that I've been nursing for years to liven up my pasta sauce? No. The bottle of bourbon I just bought for use in tri-tip marinades? Uh-uh. No, it was cider. Three bottles in succession, one after the other. They were in the fridge just taking up space anyway.
I am not doing that EVER again. And by that I mean drinking. I never got sick (didn't drink enough for THAT) but I did feel very out of control. It was harder to think, harder to type, harder to simply stand UP straight. I think I still am a little tipsy. It was fun at first but after a while it was just tedious.
I honestly feel sorry for my brother-in-law. He's just a tiny, petty little man. I don't need him, his approval or his acceptance to be myself. I certainly don't need his sanctimonious, holier-than-thou attitude poisoning my life.
I hope his kids manage to grow up to be decent human beings despite being saddled with a misogynistic, racist, transphobic, homophobic bigot like him for a parent.