Life of the party
Dec. 13th, 2009 09:24 amOne really excellent side-effect of transition is increased self-confidence. Last night I saw this in action. Alexander hosted a party for GLU and invited Travis and me to come. Travis couldn't go, because it would mean too much time away from work and other commitments, but I went. I had a wonderful time. I talked to people. I "mingled" as it were. I didn't get all thick-tongued and bashful like I used to. I laughed and joked and was totally there as an active participant. It felt good!
Another guest is a friend of Alexander's from way back in junior high. She and Travis were friends too, up until our break with Alexander in 2001, so she knew us, but under our old names. She asked us to do an introduction because there were faces there she didn't know, and when I introduced myself as Carla she seemed a bit surprised. I explained where she knew me from and that Travis and I are both trans and she just took it in stride. She called me Carla the rest of the night, and referred to Travis as Travis, too. It was wonderful to be accepted so quickly and easily.
Plus I made pumpkin tortilla soup and a pumpkin pie for the party and they were both very popular. :)
So all-in-all, an excellent night for me.
Another guest is a friend of Alexander's from way back in junior high. She and Travis were friends too, up until our break with Alexander in 2001, so she knew us, but under our old names. She asked us to do an introduction because there were faces there she didn't know, and when I introduced myself as Carla she seemed a bit surprised. I explained where she knew me from and that Travis and I are both trans and she just took it in stride. She called me Carla the rest of the night, and referred to Travis as Travis, too. It was wonderful to be accepted so quickly and easily.
Plus I made pumpkin tortilla soup and a pumpkin pie for the party and they were both very popular. :)
So all-in-all, an excellent night for me.